This is a subject I have spoken about before, but want to talk
about again because we are in this season of high school and college
graduation. Students are now considering their future. Some will defer
to their parents and let them continue to make decisions for them, while
others make the decision to take control of their own lives.
Recognize
that you can't possibly do everything, and you can't be all things to
all people. Remove from your life those material things, practices and
relationships that are no longer aligned with your goals. That includes
people who drag you down, who you spend time with out of sheer
obligation, who prey on your good nature, or who pull you back into bad
habits when you're trying to change. New opportunities you never
imagined will rush in to fill that space.
You'll find it much
easier to focus on those things that truly matter to you, and those
dreams you're determined to make come true. If you're clear on your
Purpose, you'll also find it much easier to keep fresh clutter out of
your life.
We need to continually reassess our lives because we often let those things back into our lives that pull us down.
YOU
are responsible for yourself. Responsible for what you do. Responsible
for who you are. Responsible for the way you face the world and deal
with it. You aren't a victim of your childhood or your past or your
circumstances--unless you choose to be.
It's not easy. Nothing worthwhile is. But it DOES get easier if you're clear about your purpose and you embrace it with passion.
The
actions you take to solve a particular problem or to make a change in
your life break down into two categories: direct actions and indirect
actions. Indirect actions are things that require the cooperation of
other people. Direct actions, are actions that you can take right now.
When it comes to setting goals, all or almost all the steps you take toward your goal should be based on direct actions.
Dreams
aren't bestowed from above. You have to reach out and take them. All it
requires is hard work, strategy and the determination to see it
through.
We are all unique in our personalities and behavior
patterns, and no one knows better than us what we have a passion for.
Therefore, it behooves you to take control of your life, find your
passion, and pursue it relentlessly.
Some people have a passion
for entrepreneurship, while others, work better with others making the
decisions for them in the workplace because they've feared taking on
total responsibility when it comes to making decisions.
This is
why it is very important to know yourself and your natural behavioral
style. When you let someone else make your employment decisions for you,
you will end up living their lives, or you will resent them pointing
you in the wrong direction when it comes to a long-term career.
I
grew up in an era when women had few opportunities when it came to
employment. They were encouraged to go into teaching or secretarial
schools. During this era, you had many teachers who were there for the
pay rather than helping students reach their potential. These teachers
didn't want to be there, therefore, many of their students were not
inspired or encouraged to set higher goals for themselves.
Today
women have a wider range of opportunities when it comes to employment
and have even chosen self-employment as an option for themselves. This
gives them the opportunity for flexi time, so they can multitask and
take care of their families without being guilty.
Everyone has
dreams as children of what they want to be when they grow up. It is up
to their parents to guide them, without reliving their lives through
their children. This becomes very tricky, because if the theory is a
poor communicator, they become very dictatorial, rather than discussing
the future with the children, or asking them for their opinion.
When
the parent is a good communicator and understand how to guide their
child effectively, the child will grow up well-rounded and be able to
make the right decisions for themselves. There should always be
parenting classes for adults that help them learn to communicate with
their children effectively and helped him mature as adults.
Society
still have a long way to go to understand how to help adults be good
parents to their children! Learning starts in the home early before the
child even answers. Received a formal education. Not only will parents
but the school systems have to reinvent the education system to help
children grow up to be responsible adults in today's society.